When we choose to be part of an online community from: blogging, social media, through to joining Facebook groups, we choose to influence others with our thoughts, opinions, and life stories. Through the online interaction we soon start to realize that being online isn’t always fun or as engaging as we would like it to be. In fact we sober up very quickly when we soon note a few cold hard truths when it comes to being online. I have decided to turn this into a mini series on the blog, so today we will look at part one of some online truths and revelations.
SOME ONLINE HONESTY TRUTHS
1 . SOME PEOPLE WON’T ALWAYS VALUE YOUR OPINION.
I have found time and time again whether it be via blogging to Social media connecting in general, that people will always share their views based on their opinions and life experiences. Some people think that their opinion is the only opinion, therefore your opinion will sound absolutely bizarre to them. Then “debates” aka passive aggressive commenting takes place online, and things spiral out of control. I have found that if people are not open to discussing opinions openly, then it’s not worth it going into a debate with them. Your words are basically falling on to deaf ears, and quite frankly it’s not worth the energy or the time it takes to type out in all CAPS. Move on, or scroll on!
2 . SOME PEOPLE ARE HATERS, MOVE ON.
Yes, they exist . The haters! The killers of dreams . The negative Nancy’s . The online trolls that secretly stalk your profiles waiting to pounce. They disagree with everyone and everything. They make you question if they even like themselves. They are prone to troll, and wait eagerly to respond to something negatively. It brings them great joy seeing you sweat and squirm uncomfortably. Sometimes these haters aka “secret fans” respond out of an insecure place. They are not even open to hearing or respecting your opinions, because the world revolves around them. Therefore, they will respond selfishly. You have a few options in which to respond to the haters : Ignore, and move on. Respond and react . It’s your life, your online platform therefore choose how you want to engage with it and the crazies out there. Just remember “Not my circus, not my monkeys!” Repeat with me.
3 . SOME PEOPLE WON’T LIKE YOU JUST BECAUSE, AND THAT IS OKAY.
Back in the day, it would absolutely freak me out if I found out that someone didn’t like me, just because. I would feel confused and hurt, because how could someone not like me without getting to know me? I would either try very hard to become their friend, or I would mull over what the possible reasons could be as to why they didn’t like me. Yes, time wasted, time that I will never get back! Then I had an “ah ha moment”, and realized “so what” and I was cool with that sentiment. Some people may not like you, and that is okay, as long as you like you and the people that mean the most to you love you. Then that is what really counts at the end of the day.
4 . ONLINE AFFIRMATION AND ATTENTION WILL NEVER FILL OR FIX AN INTERNAL ISSUE.
Being online can be quite addictive in many ways. Engaging with others online, and having their “likes, following, comments” can make you feel important or validated. Yet, we shouldn’t find our worth, value or confidence in those things. Those things can never truly reflect your worth and value, and they most certainly will never fill you. Know who you are, acknowledge your strengths, passions, and talents. Celebrate who you are, and celebrate it with others!
What online truths have you discovered over the years?
I would love to know, as it will inspire more posts on this topic. Feel free to pop your revelations and online pearls of wisdom below <3