Angelina, Brad, Jennifer and the internet

What do you mean Ang & Brad are getting divorced ? The whole online world was in a spin yesterday. Some thought that their personal lives were over , whilst others weren’t even surprised by the news, whilst some felt that because the iconic couple split – “true love is now dead.” Whilst others thought it was “funny” to spew out some Jennifer Anniston GIFS all over Twitter as a means of a giggle.

The world we live in is clearly in a mess. We laugh at people’s brokenness, we don’t feel surprised when relationships fail, we feel disappointed and let down by others choices, we feel crushed and confused because “if our idols can’t do it, how can we?” 

I read a few online articles that were floating around yesterday on the inter webs on the sad news of the infamous Hollywood couple’s divorce. One thing that stood out to me was that both Angelina and Brad asked for privacy and respect during this time, because they want their children to feel respected. What amazed me (more like shocked me) was that the media took something that is so private, personal, delicate,  and put it on display on the internet as a means of “entertainment.” Yes , they are celebrities and they will be in the media regardless of what they say or do, but they are still human beings with feelings and with a family that they are trying to protect at the end of the day.Brad and Angelina

This brings me to another thought:

We don’t protect or respect children.

Let me explain :  Last week I was quite shocked when I read an article about how young girls were calling Beyonce’s daughter “ugly” all over Twitter. Calling a little innocent girl “ugly”, what kind of world do we live in where grown women speak so harshly about little people so blatantly and nonchalantly over the internet? I don’t know about you, but to me that is all kinds of messed up. We live in a world where people think it’s okay to be unfiltered on the internet at the cost of breaking others down.

I am a mother of a little three year old, and I teach drama to little people. I have worked with children for well over 10 years now and I know how delicate little people truly are. Every word spoken towards them shapes them, influences them, and it can either build or break their confidence and perception of themselves. We live in a world where it’s so easy to criticize and shame those that are broken. Instead we should be even more conscious of building what is broken, restoring what is lost, loving where there is no love, shining a light where it is dark.

I don’t know about you but when I see that people are broken, I feel for them. I would rather feel for them, and empathize with them rather than mock and ridicule them. I can’t even begin to imagine the heartbreak that comes with saying goodbye to your partner, and seeing a family being split. Just the very thought of not having Rash in my life brings me to tears. So, I can only imagine that making this decision was not easy for them, especially knowing that it would affect their six beautiful children. My heart truly goes out to their family, and I only wish that we would be open to showing some respect and kindness towards them and their family. It may sound like an impossible request I know, as many people just don’t care.

But if I could leave you with this thought :

“If you yourself, and your family were going through something that is heartbreakingly painful and unimaginable how would you like others to respond to your brokenness?”

Just a little thought that I wanted to share <3

6 Comments

  1. liezel kriel September 21, 2016 at 8:28 am

    I was SO sad when I heard the news. I actually didn’t even want to believe it at first. Looking at these gorgeous black and white photo’s you posted makes me even sadder.

    It really is sad that we as the public feel we have the right to comment, discuss and joke about something so personal. And I’m no innocent here. I might have retweeted a Jenn aniston meme and read article after article about why they are divorcing. Zoomed in on the court papers. I now feel ashamed.

    I too have seen the comments section of Beyonce’s photo’s where people would say “Poor girl got her dads looks” Like you would never say that to a mothers face so why do you think you can do it hiding behind a computer. Its disgusting.

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  2. Sharon September 21, 2016 at 9:54 am

    Cas! You took the words right out of my mouth. I was horrified by the ugly and mocking comments and tweets people posted yesterday. It disgusts me. No matter who or what Brangelina are, they are still, at their core, human beings who made mistakes and lived less than perfect lives, but haven’t we all.
    I don’t understand the pack mentality that seems to go hand in hand with social media. Remember that Margret Van Wyk story from a few weeks ago? People posted the names of her children. CHILDREN! WHY?
    What purpose does it serve other than to perhaps make one feel better about their small little lives?
    I don’t understand it.
    I really don’t and at the heart of it all, there are 6 children who’s lives are being ripped apart. And that’s apparently funny?

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  3. tami September 21, 2016 at 10:23 am

    Such a great post Cas! I am horrified on a daily basis when I see how people feel they can rip others apart from the safety and “anonomity” of their keyboard. I’m sure they would never say that to someone if they had to do it to their face 🙁

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  4. Megan Hartwig September 21, 2016 at 10:49 am

    Well said and written Cas!!!!

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  5. mommabearTrax September 21, 2016 at 3:21 pm

    People can be horrible. And social media has now merely provided these people with a platform to amplify the negativity they spew.

    Social provides them with the anonymity to churn out such hateful words- absolute cowards really.
    I dont get it- why or how people get any joy out of others’ pain. Especially so when there are children involved. But sadly they exist amongst us. Very likely fueled by their own insecurities and messed up need to make themselves feel better.

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  6. stephanie videira September 21, 2016 at 5:13 pm

    Very Well written, exactly my thoughts

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