Have you ever wondered to yourself after casually stalking someone online, and thought to yourself: “I wonder what they’re like in person?” Then upon meeting them in #reallife they’re not quite what you expected them to be like in person, maybe in a good way, or in a bad way. Not everyone truly portrays the true essence of who they are online. Some people prefer to show a highlight reel of their lives online, whilst others show every facet and detail of their life online, and then there are some who portray or fabricate a lifestyle online that they are truly NOT living offline.

This got me thinking:

  • How much of our online lives match up with who we are offline?
  • Do we practice what we preach (or post) ?
  • Are we really who we say we are both online and offline?

They’re tough questions to chew on, but I truly believe that people (other online goers) will sooner or later figure out the truth, and put two and two together. They will notice if you are truly being authentic, and real after awhile, especially if they know you in person, or soon meet you face to face and get to know you. There is great influence when it comes to following, or working with people who are authentic both online and offline. As you confidently believe in them, and you believe in what they have to say and do – because they are who they say are, both online and offline. online etiquette

Please also note that I pose this thought because it’s something that I am reflecting on for myself personally. I always do a little heart check from time to time, and do some internal spring cleaning to ensure that I am always growing and remaining true to myself, and that I am always being authentically me in every sense of the word. I never want to come across as one thing online, then be something else offline. Therefore, if I am all about laughter, encouraging and inspiring, then I need to make sure that I am truly living that lifestyle authentically both online and offline.

It’s a tricky subject to tackle, as sometimes what we do on social media could be part of our business, or brand. Whether you’re an entreperteur, a business, brand, blogger, or Instagram famous, sometimes the lines can blur a bit. As we want to portray an image, lifestyle, or a brand that doesn’t truly match up to who we are in our everyday. Maybe we love the idea of what we could be, or should be, but we have forgotten who we are, what our values are, or what our vision and mission statement should be. It’s only natural to get caught up on social media, and to be so busy building our brand, our empire, that we forget to nurture our hearts in the process.online etiquette

You are after all are worth more than your skill, talent, or online following. You are more than your brand, business, blog, or cute photo that you post. You are YOU: which is special, unique, and is what the world needs more of. Let more of who you are, reflect both in your online and offline life. Who we are offline, should also feature in our online brand, if that makes sense. Always know the WHY behind what you do online. Understand the heart, vision, and purpose of what it is that you are trying to do online. Knowing and understanding those simple (yet powerful) things will always put things into perspective and motivate you to always stay true to who you are, and what you are trying to achieve online. Never try to replicate someone else’s success, by imitating their success online. Focus on your creative journey and process, and communicate it in a way that’s one hundred percent YOU!


  • People will relate to you better.
  • People will naturally respect you.
  • People will listen, and value what you have to say.
  • People will instinctively trust you.
  • You will carry influence, that will in turn grow your following and further your influence and reach.

It’s only normal and natural that the lines blur from time to time, therefore, it’s only natural to be intentional about doing some internal heart house keeping and heart cleaning. Take a moment to pause and reflect on what it is that you do online, and ask yourself if it matches up to your everyday living and lifestyle?  Are you “posing a life”, or are you being real, true, authentic in every sense of the word? Are you who you say you are both online and offline? If the two online and offline worlds conflict and contradict itself – then get to the root of it and understand what the reason or cause behind it could be.

Take a moment to REALLY chew on the above questions, wrestle with it until you find your answers.

Make the necessary changes if need be, and keep shining a light both online and offline!online etiquette


  1. Jonelle March 28, 2017 at 9:49 am

    Yes!! I LOVE THIS!!

    :You are after all are worth more than your skill, talent, or online following. You are more than your brand, business, blog, or cute photo that you post. You are YOU: which is special, unique, and is what the world needs more of.”

    Excellent post <3

  2. Teri Row March 28, 2017 at 9:57 am

    One of the biggest trends for 2017 is authenticity and how we portray ourselves and brands online. Loved this post.
    I can spot the fake from the real each time.
    That is why our InstaMamameet is so important for us, bringing people offline into real life. So you meet people face to face and get to know the REAL person behind the profile and perfect photos.

  3. Delrae Spiller March 28, 2017 at 1:38 pm

    Love It,

    Lovely read and yes have no time for fake.

    Great Honesty Post. Keep them Coming.


  4. Hayley March 28, 2017 at 2:09 pm

    Love this post! I think everything we do online or even offline affects our own personal brand. And if the two are not in sync , even if it’s a small difference, it’s going to come across as fake.

  5. Rolene March 28, 2017 at 4:05 pm

    Thank you for this great reminder. I love this post!!

  6. Mari-Louise Candiotes March 28, 2017 at 4:18 pm

    Another lovely post, thanks lady. Putting yourself online can be very daunting. So important staying true to oneself… It’s the only way to do anything for the long haul and an “internal spring clean”, I couldn’t agree more! LOVE LOVE LOVE!!!


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