The lies we tell ourselves are often in secret, sometimes with or without our knowledge. The lies that we believe in secret often damage our self esteem, and cause us to assume, doubt and to fear. They start off as little lies, but soon root itself deep into our hearts, so much so, that it can completely consume and control us, and cause us to behave in an unhealthy manner.
Over the years I have had to face certain lies that became internalized insecurities, which in turn stopped me from living a free, confident, and full life that God had destined for me (and you) to live. Facing lies, insecurities and hard brutal truths is not always fun, and it most certainly is NOT always easy! But every time we choose to rise up and face challenges, the more courageous, secure, and confident we become. We no longer become slaves to our lies or insecurities, instead we become free and empowered in who God has called us to be, despite our flaws.
DON’T LET LIES DECEIVE YOU
Recently an old lie snuck into my heart and it started to make me feel a bit insecure about myself. Sounds so silly that a “thirty something” year old woman would still have moments that would leave me feeling insecure, or less than. My sneaky lie sounded like this: “Nobody likes you, Cass, and why should they?!”
SIDE NOTE : I am being very transparent with you, not because I want you to affirm me or anything. I just want to be open and honest with you, because I think most of us at some stage experience those sneaky deceptive lies that cause us to think, feel, and behave in way that makes us feel worthless or less than.
Over the years I have had to learn to acknowledge when a new lie forms, or when an old lie revisits, and know how to kick it to the curb. WHY? Because I don’t want lies to have the last say when it comes to being all that God created me to be. Lies have the power to steer us off course, they also become an unhealthy distraction in our lives, and they steal from us mentally and emotionally.
When we learn to acknowledge all those sneaky internal lies, and choose not to believe in them any longer – we gain the power, freedom and joy over them. Instead of letting this new lie form a stronghold in my life, I chose to confront it, and I chose not to believe in it, and guess what? – I feel better for it.
THE LIES WE BELIEVE AS WOMEN
My hopes for this post is that together we can unlock and dismantle those deceptive lies that we hold onto. So that together we can feel encouraged, empowered and secure in who we are and in who God has called us to be. Here are a few lies that used to hold my heart captive in secret, maybe you can relate to some of the following, or maybe you have one or two lies to add to this list. Identify those lies and tell them : “NO THANKS!”
- I am not good enough.
- Who am I to dream.
- I am my mistakes.
- I am who people say I am.
- I am not worthy.
- I am a failure.
- My best isn’t good enough.
- Compared to them – I am nothing special.
- They seem to lead a very perfect / easy life.
- If I had “x y z” I would be able to do “x y z”
- I might as well quit before ever trying.
- I am too young / too old / to curvy / too crazy / too boring.
- No one will understand me.
- No one truly likes me.
- Other women are my competition.
- I need to be more like her.
If a thought (a lie) causes you to feel insecure, or down about yourself or causes you to behave in an unhealthy manner, well then maybe it’s time to address those lies and kick them to the curb once and for all! Do not let your secret internal lies steal from you any longer and cause you to feel less than. Who you are is special, rare, unique and should be celebrated. Face those fears, face those lies and remind yourself that you are a daughter of a king! Rise up warrior princess!