What is it that stops us from loving, accepting, and celebrating who we are? What stops us from dreaming and believing for better circumstances and situations? What causes us to feel so despondent, out of touch, disconnected towards others, to always settling for less, through to failing ourselves before even trying? Could it be that we have been robbed from the truth of knowing that who we are is worthy.

WE ARE : Worthy of our calling, worthy of honour, worthy of love and respect, worthy of intimacy, worthy of dreaming, worthy to live out our dreams, worthy of praise, worthy of greatness.

                                                                                                     YET WE FORGET.

Isn’t it amazing, that when we have a strong sense of self worth and value, we feel confident and secure in who we are. Because we then feel confident, we are more: secure, hopeful, more expectant, AND we won’t feel the need to compete or compare ourselves with somebody else, OR shy away in shame hiding who we are.

What stops us from understanding our worth and value? Could it be shame, guilt, our past, having an obscure perception of who we are, through to never fully understanding our identity – flaws and all?

                                                                                                  MISPLACED IDENTITY.

When we have a tainted perception of who we are, we live, and behave in a certain way that actually secretly goes against who we have been called to be.


. We start to expect less,

                                                because we believe we are worth less.
. We settle for unhealthy relationships,

                                                                       because we don’t believe we are worthy of
love and respect that empowers us to feel beautiful and special.

. We  forget how to dream,
                                                     because the idea of dreaming seems unrealistic
and  unattainable.


. We fail ourselves before even trying,
                                            because we don’t believe that we are
                                                                                                               capable of succeeding.
. We try to find our worth and acceptance through how we look, to what we wear and own, through to how people like and affirm us either in person or online,
                                                                                 because we have no idea who we are.


The above statements were a way of living for me for MANY years. I had to learn to unlock  every little annoying lie until it had no more control over me. I had to unlock each lie, one at a time, until I felt like I had overcome it. It was, and still is a process, a journey, one in which that cannot be rushed.

There are no short cuts or quick fixes when it comes to the rediscovery of our true identity. It requires patience, not perfection. It requires you to let go of: pain, shame, guilt and your past. It requires you to take action, to step forward – despite what was and step into what is, and what should be. It is a process that requires you to be: kind, gentle and loving towards  yourself. It’s a healing process that encourages you to become more familiar with the root and core of who you are.


The only thing that will only ever be my saving grace, my compass whenever I feel emotionally lost within myself, is God my father. (Now,wait a second, I am not preaching or throwing my beliefs at you.)  However, no matter the : the counseling sessions, self help books and talks, yoga classes, through to anxiety meds that I underwent- none of it truly helped me to get back to the core of who I was before ‘life and all of its gut wrenching punches’ happened along the way.

My relationship with God, and knowing Him intimately and personally as my father and friend gave me the courage to face every lie and to accept all sorts of internal healing. Was it easy? NO! Was it worth going through?  YES, AND YES, AND ANOTHER RESOUNDING YES!! I love my relationship with God, it’s unique , it’s personal, it’s fun, it’s sweet, loving and all kinds of gentle. I have found my true sense of self worth, value and identity in Him, time and time again. Which in turn continues to renew my confidence, AND it always encourages me to courageously pursue the calling and mandate He has placed on my life.

Before my son was born, the following bible verse was spoken over our family time and time again. It now serves as a constant reminder for us as a family :

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. – Psalm 139:14

Regardless of our flaws, shortcomings, mistakes, or whatever the world tries to throw at us us – we know that God sees us as fearfully and wonderfully made.  Therefore, we choose to celebrate and praise him for it, flaws and all. Therefore, no matter what happens to us through to the negative words spoken over us, it will NOT take root in our hearts or hold it captive – because our souls know full well that we are Gods masterpiece (all of us).

Do not let lies steal from you any longer, or trick you into thinking that you are worthless or less than!  You are a masterpiece in the making <3 


  • You are worthy and deserving of love.
  • You are worthy of your calling.
  • You are so worthy to let your heart dream again.
  • You are worthy to be celebrated.
  • Who you are is beautiful.
  • Who you are is a gift.
  • Who you are is enough.
  • Who you are is a masterpiece in the making!

1 Comment

  1. Nina June 13, 2017 at 2:35 pm

    I have so enjoyed reading your blog. Its the message we need to keep reinforcing in these very challenging times


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