Often when teaching drama to little people, one of the things I commonly hear coming out of their mouths is: “They copied us!” Meaning another group of actors were possibly inspired by what they were doing, or did in drama class that was seen as successful, and ended up doing something similar in order to achieve similar results. I often find myself saying : “See it as a compliment if someone was inspired by your idea!”
But this line of thought got me thinking recently, how as adults sometimes we find ourselves admiring somebody else. Whether it’s the way they dress, their fun personality, their so called perfect family life, through to their success. We find ourselves secretly gushing over them, possibly wanting all of “that” to transpire into our own lives. I have few inspiring women that I follow online, they include a mix of out of the box creatives, who are successful entrepreneurs, and somehow magically manage being a mom, wife and boss lady all relatively well. I LOVE it, and of course I sometimes find myself drooling over their online profiles (totally normal, right?) Through to giggling hysterically at their Insta-Stories, because I feel like we are besties (still, totally normal, right?!)
THE ‘HOW TO’ ON HOW SHE DOES IT
Then there are normal days, where I find myself questioning and asking myself; “how can I achieve similar success and status to them?” Hear me out, I love my life, ALL .OF .IT . But there are little moments where I find myself analyzing somebody elses lifestyle and success stories, as a means of hopefully implementing their success strategies within my own life, in hopes of achieving a similar outcome. Totally normal, right? Ha!
Often on Pinterest I stumble upon loads of articles that reads as follows : “How to achieve success by doing x,y,z, how to grow your blog, how to write better content, how to take better pictures, how to have the perfect layout, how to pose for photos, how to contour like Kim K (still have no clue how that one works?!) But my point being, there is so much information out there telling us “how to do it”, and if we follow it “we will be successful.”
But what if you have tried some of the said articles above, and well, NOTHING. It did absolutely nothing. Maybe it helped a little, but it didn’t gain the same traction, or success as the original author experienced.
Anyone else on the verge of shouting; “PREACH!?” (No, just me? )
I had this little moment the other day, where upon researching, and investigating how I was going to achieve my goals, via searching for advice online. I heard this little voice (no, I do not see dead people) in my heart say :
“WHY DO WE NEED TO FOLLOW SOMEBODY ELSES SUCCESS PLAN, WHEN WE CAN FOLLOW OURS?”
The people we look up to, the ones who achieved their success, probably just followed their instinct, trusted their heart, gave it a go, and did it without the intention of be successful. They just probably thought to try something that felt authentic and fresh to them, and then expressed it without wondering, or worrying about how others would perceive it – they just did it. Which in turn, brought their success.
Hence, when we try to replicate somebody elses success story, it doesn’t always work out the same for us, we don’t really achieve the similar results. Therefore, we cannot cheat the system, or look for short cuts when pursuing and living out our unique calling!
LITTLE STAY THE PATH REMINDERS
1 . HER STORY, IS HER STORY | YOUR STORY IS YOUR STORY –
Therefore, tell it well, tell it truthfully, and with confidence.
2 . TRUST IN YOURSELF –
Who you are is just as important as the next person.
If you have idea that you want to explore or try out – give it go.
You will never know, unless you try.
3 . SO WHAT –
So what if you;
mess up, make a mistake, if people don’t like it (the idea), or you.
Those fearful thoughts become distractions, and steal from your confidence as a creative, and as a woman. I’m at a point in my life, where I can confidently say “I don’t really care what other people will think!”
Because, I now fully understand and embrace my calling, and my mandate that I need to work out here on planet earth. Besides, life is far too short, too unpredictable to sit on the bench watching, waiting, and observing while time ticks on.
There’s a saying, (and I always get sayings wrong) but it goes something along the lines of “grab life by the balls”, or is it “grab life by the horns???” Hmm, either way, just grab the steering wheel that is life, trust the calling and gifting that has been placed on your life and give it everything that you’ve got. You don’t need to do what everyone else is doing, as a means of fitting in or finding similar outcomes as anyone else.
Find your own path, stay in your lane, then find and create your very own success stories.