Our little family is growing from three Fergie’s, to a family of four. WOOOHOOOO!
It still feels surreal, like it’s still one big hazy dream. Then again pregnancy hormones do add to that constant hazy like living, where everything feels dream like. But more on pregnancy symptoms and detailed pregnancy round two report will follow in the next post.
I wanted to focus on our little Malakai, and how he has been embracing the baby news. Malakai is four years old, and he will be turning five this year. In essence between him and his little sibling in the making, there will be a four year age gap.
For some this may be a big age gap between siblings, and for others it may be perfect, and for others maybe it’s too short of a gap. My brother and I have a six year age gap, and we had an awesome, actually hilarious childhood ! AND, truth be told, for those that know us well – know that we are still crazy and hilarious whenever we are together.
HONOUR YOUR FAMILY DYNAMIC
One thing that I’ve come to realize, and totally own in this ongoing season of mama-hood – is that every family dynamic is different, yet, it works for them. Which means we will ultimately make decisions and live lifestyles that will best suit our unique family dynamics.
WHY compare what the family next to you ‘is or isn’t’ doing compared to what you ‘are / aren’t’ doing in your family dynamic. It’s a waste of time and a waste of emotion. Stay to true to who you are as a person, as a mom, and honour your unique family dynamic – you will be happier for it <3
I always knew that emotionally I wouldn’t be able to have done a short age gap with kids. My anxiety would’ve eaten us all alive. Or perhaps not, but I knew in my heart that I wanted to wait a bit before adding to our little family. Therefore, we waited when it came to trying for another baby – as we wanted to honour our little family dynamic.
There was no rush, no pressure, just embracing and enjoying every moment together as a family as best as possible, despite some challenging seasons that we overcame together.
I am a full believer that Gods timing, is always perfect. And that his peace will always lead us when it comes to the unique plans and calling he has placed on our lives. Just knowing that, and remembering that – always, leaves me feeling at peace and confident in Gods will and timing for everything.
We had been trying for baby no 2 for a few months, and were both surprised when we found out that I was pregnant – I mean I had taken five pregnancy tests just to be sure. Then a blood test, which confirmed positive as well – I mean you want TOTAL AND COMPLETE CONFIRMATION, RIGHT? Ha!
We kept the news secret, and most family members only found out on Christmas. However, we wanted to tell Malakai in a special way, a way that would make sense to his four year old brain. When we went to the (only scan that we’ve been too thus far) 12 week down syndrome scan, we took Malakai along with us.
We told him that the special doctor could show us what was inside my tummy. He loved this, and immediately said: “I think that the doctor is going to see the apple in your tummy that you just ate mom!”
Boy was he in for a surprise…
PROUD BIG BROTHER
Finally, after the doctor put the cold jelly onto my stomach, she started probing with her ultrasound scanner, and the image of the baby came up on the screen.
Malakai looked confused, still thinking he was looking at food. Then after awhile, when he heard the baby’s heartbeat and saw the baby wriggle around, he said;
“Mom it’s a baby in there!”
A big proud smile lit up his face, and he whispered in my ear:
“Mom that’s the baby I prayed to Jesus for, and now it’s here!”
That’s when I teared up! Proud mom alert! Since then, it’s all he talks about….
- He kisses my teeny bump.
- He plays guitar for the baby and asks if the baby loves his music.
- He rubs my belly and says “hello baby” .
- He always tells me all of his big brother plans : like muscle training for the baby, training the baby to be a ninja like him, and he will dress the baby and love the baby if it cries and feels sad. BUT side note – the baby can’t play with his “dangerous toys”, It must only play with soft baby toys…. LOL!
- Every time I eat, he asks if the baby and I are enjoying our food.
- Then sometimes he asks if the baby loves him? (insert crying emoji)
Mali’s picture of the baby and him with a big heart in-between them <3
Of course siblings will be siblings, and bump heads, argue, debate, and do weird things to each other. But I know without a doubt that Malakai will be an awesome (and without a doubt- bossy) loving, and VERY attentive big brother.
Malakai will always be my baby. He is my first born, the one who introduced me to motherhood. The one who encouraged me to whip out my big girl panties and grow and stretch in character. So watching him transform into a doting big brother, makes me feel so proud of him. It even makes me excited seeing little glimpses into the man, husband and father that he will be one day. Until then, I am savouring this age, this season of life that he is in now for all its worth.
Plus, I still get loads of hugs and kisses, so there is NO RUSH in the growing Malakai!!! HA! #winning
Thank you to everyone for all the social media love and well wishes, it means SO much to us knowing we are surrounded by love in this VERY special season <3