ARE YOU DISAPPOINTED THAT YOU’RE HAVING ANOTHER BOY?

OH NO, SHAME ANOTHER BOY!

I HOPE THAT YOU WILL STILL TRY FOR A GIRL NEXT?

WHAT DID YOU WANT BABY WISE?

ARE YOU HAVING WHAT YOU WERE HOPING FOR?

Just a few casual questions that I get asked on the regular whilst being pregnant for a second time round.

Unfiltered questions get asked all the time, whether we are the ones asking them, or on the receiving end of them.

Sometimes these questions may have no real negative intention behind them, and it could be innocently asked at times. But for most on the receiving end of these ‘unfiltered’ questions – it can feel a bit hurtful. Especially, if we don’t know what the person on the receiving end is feeling regarding their personal situations…

I recently had a random stranger look and feel disappointed when I said I was having another boy – and they almost dismissed my baby bump, and encouraged me to keep trying for a girl.

Bit shocking really.

INSTA-STORY FEEDBACK

When I posted on my Insta-story that I was going to touch on this subject, some of the feedback I got was rather interesting. Some women thought these statements and questions were normal to ask others. Whilst the majority (99.9%) felt it was either : a bit offensive, too personal, or unfiltered and just plain tactless.

Some women even felt that the biggest problem was if acquaintances or strangers asked these sort of questions when some of them maybe : were struggling with fertility, have maybe miscarried, have adopted, or are having same gender siblings. etc.

Look, I totally get that people will ask random questions from time to time , and that we have a choice when it comes to how we choose to respond  to it. But sometimes, I think people need to also be more mindful, or filter before they open their mouths, when it comes to asking personal questions like that.

I think what bothers me the most is when people look / sound or feel disappointed on my “behalf” that I am having another boy. It equally bothers me when they insist I should try for a girl, as if I have control over that, when I don’t.

BOTTOM LINE

We can’t control what gender baby will grow inside of us. We can’t even in control when or if we will fall pregnant – pregnancy in itself is a miracle…

Every baby regardless of their sex – has a specific purpose and destiny within our care.

Every baby is a miracle in itself – one that should be celebrated.

Falling pregnant is a miracle, and should be honored – esp, when their are so many women still waiting for their miracle babies.

ABOUT RAISING BOYS

When I found out I was pregnant with a boy for the first time round, my heart immediately fluttered and skipped a beat. When I held Malakai in my arms for the first time – I felt my “mom goggles” mist up almost immediately – I was completely and utterly in love with my gorgeous little boy.

My son is my pride and joy, he is my heart on my sleeve, his disappointments and victories are mine too! We are so close and have such a special bond, one that I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Now being pregnant again, knowing it’s another boy – I couldn’t be more excited! My husband and I both burst out laughing when our Doctor said: IT’S A BOY!

TWO BOYS!   TWO GORGEOUS BOYS!   BROTHERS WHO WILL BE BESTIES!

BROTHERS WHO WILL MOST LIKELY DRIVE ME NUTS WITH CONSTANT LOUD NOISES, DIRTY CLOTHES, WEIRD SMELLS, PRANKS, WEIRD GAMES, AND ALWAYS EATING ME OUT OF HOUSE AND HOME – WHO WILL MOST LIKELY CHARM THE SOCKS OFF OF ME = I can’t imagine anything else.

It’s perfect in all of it chaos.

MY HEART FEELS SO FULL KNOWING WHAT’S TO COME!!!!

There is something TRULY special about being a mom of a boy…

You soon realize how soft they truly are, even though they want to show you their “Super-hero strength” on the daily.

As moms we get to teach and show them that emotions and that feeling things aren’t a weakness, but to acknowledge them and process them well –  is a strength.

Malakai always wants to show me his muscles, and always tells me  and shows me “how strong he is”. But he is still a boy who wants hugs, kisses, love and needs me to wipe every tear away, and walk with him whenever he feels afraid, and to reassure him that he is in fact the bravest kid I know…

ABOUT BEING A BOY MOM

Being a boy mom means that I get to help prepare my boys for future relationships and marriage, and teach them how to love AND respect women.

Being a boy mom means constant never ending adventure seeking with them.

Being a boy mom means having mini heart attacks from all of their: wild wrestling, always climbing – jumping – falling and constant stunt seeking, AND (crazy) potentially dangerous experimenting of things.

Being a boy mom means constant weird smells, dirt, sand everywhere, but the cutest and stickiest of kisses and hugs from them.

Being a boy mom means constant LOUD NOISES.

Being a boy mom means watching my babies grow into boys, through to becoming men of honour & integrity.

Being a boy mom means that I get to be the Queen of my little castle with my handsome men at my side. Then one day I get to welcome some sweet princesses to our home that will marry my handsome prince’s.

WHAT MORE COULD A BOY MOM ASK FOR?

 

6 Comments

  1. Anel June 6, 2018 at 6:12 am

    Great post! Love the raw honesty and so grateful for moms like you who raise great boys. Our society needs men of integrity, authority, with a clear sense of identity!

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  2. Mari-Louise June 6, 2018 at 7:30 am

    Totally relate friend, apparently I’m the unluckiest woman alive for having 3 girls. After Lia I decided if the world doesn’t want to celebrate my riches, then I will! Well done for doing the same and raising my future sons in law 😝😉 jokes… but maybe not 😘

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  3. Kelly V June 6, 2018 at 7:58 am

    Love this Cass xxx I was also asked a few of those q’s 😉
    Originally I wanted a boy first, but from before the doctor looked, I knew it was a girl and my heart could not be happier. We are entrusted with a unique and special life and they’re exactly who they should be.

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  4. Chantelle June 6, 2018 at 8:24 am

    So much love to you and your gorgeous family. And I agree that those type of comments are uncalled for. Children are gifts from above no matter their gender (or future sexual orientation-but that’s a story for another time)
    You are going to raise your boys to move mountains. ❤️

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  5. Gaelyn Cokayne June 6, 2018 at 3:27 pm

    Loved this! I’m a girl mom (so far) although I always imagined myself a boy mom. When I fell pregnant with Stevie I immediately knew she was a girl, and so all my imaginings and day dreams were for my daughter. If we’re blessed with more babies, I am not afraid to admit that I would love a boy – simply because I would love to experience that side of motherhood too. Would I be disappointed to only have girls? A little, if I’m completely honest. That doesn’t mean I won’t be overjoyed and amazed with any babies that I’m blessed to have! But that being said I trust God COMPLETELY to bring me the children I need and am meant to raise. I think there’s a reason we get the genders we do, we think we know what’s best for us, how wrong we are!

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  6. Cody June 7, 2018 at 8:05 am

    I totally feel you. Being a mom of 2 boys I constantly get these questions. I was blessed with boys and wouldn’t have it any other way! ♡♡

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